The absence of information allows the breeding of disinformation, which causes all kinds of heartache and hassles, so I’m going to give you the scoop, straight from the horse’s mouth:
Joe and I are splitting up.
We’re not mad at each other, we’re still co-parents, and love is not the question. Certain events have transpired that made it clear that we’re better in an informal arrangement than a formal one, though the legal side isn’t going to change for a while, until such time as insurance and taxes can be ironed out properly.
There will be no long drawn-out battle or sides getting nasty. We know what we did, we know where we are, and we know where we’re going. That’s all that’s important right now.
The kids are fine with it, inasmuch as Joseph and Daniel are not conscious of the “divorce” part of it. To them, nothing has changed – we’re still in the “little house” and Joe still lives with Grandma, and they see each other on the weekends and maybe during the week. The two older kids are okay as well, for much of the same reasons: nothing really has changed.
Much of what transpired is not necessary to air in a public forum, but I can tell you this: infidelity, substance usage, and violence had NOTHING to do with it. This was a very logical and rational decision.